26 TIPS FOR MANAGING STRESS

1. Always take time for yourself, at least 30 minutes per day.

2. Be aware of your own stress meter: Know when to step back and cool down.

3. Concentrate on controlling your own situation, without controlling
everybody else.

4. Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals.

5. Eat lots of fresh fruit, veggies, bread and water, give your body the best for it to perform at its best.

6. Forgive others, don't hold grudges and be tolerant -- not everyone is as capable as you.

7. Gain perspective on things, how important is the issue?

8. Hugs, kisses and laughter: Have fun and don't be afraid to share your feelings with others.

9. Identify stressors and plan to deal with them better next time.

10. Judge your own performance realistically; don't set goals out of your own reach.

11. Keep a positive attitude, your outlook will influence outcomes and the way others treat you.

12. Limit alcohol, drugs and other stimulants, they affect your perception and behaviour.

13. Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10 per cent of what you earn.

14. No is a word you need to learn to use without feeling guilty.

15. Outdoor activities by yourself, or with friends and family, can be a great way to relax.

16. Play your favourite music rather than watching television.

17. Quit smoking: It is stressing your body daily, not to mention killing you too.

18. Relationships: Nurture and enjoy them, learn to listen more and talk less.

19. Sleep well, with a firm mattress and a supportive pillow; don't overheat yourself and allow plenty of ventilation.

20. Treat yourself once a week with a massage, dinner out, the movies: Moderation is the key.

21. Understand things from the other person's point of view.

22. Verify information from the source before exploding.

23. Worry less, it really does not get things completed better or quicker.

24. Xpress: Make a regular retreat to your favourite space, make holidays part of your yearly plan and budget.

25. Yearly goal setting: Plan what you want to achieve based on your priorities in your career, relationships, etc.

26. Zest for life: Each day is a gift, smile and be thankful that you are a part of the bigger picture.

Waiting.

First, it hurts,

Second, miserable,

Third, almost,

Fourth, close but unwanted.

Cold and dark,
Feels like an empty street,

Torn and luck,

A beggar feels like it.

Tired? You must.

Looking for heart,
Luck disappear,

but GOD holds the gear.

Rozlina@11.11pm (24th June 2013)

Missing is a big word for one's heart.

By all means, could it be that the other person is missing you so badly that it hurts you too?

I have to admit that I miss him. There! I've said it. 

Is this feeling results to the reciprocated inner feeling? Am I even making any sense? Urgh!

The truth is that I've experienced this feeling before and it had been the other party that had been missing me so badly. It had resulted for me to feel equally the same as he did.

We think that we miss them but truthfully we are experiencing a spiritual feeling, where by they are the ones that are missing us so badly.

Let me break it down to you.

In any way that you miss someone so badly, it might be that you have been spiritually connected to that person. That person and yourself might think of each other everyday. Both of you might have been waiting for each other to start the conversation/ text/ call first but neither did. Thus, both of you might wanted to start but second thoughts appeared which made it very hard for either of you to prevail and refrained from contacting each other. 

We know how we feel about each other and that adds up to how much we might miss each other.

. . .but referring to his words that he said to me some days back, I became unwanted. I feel like I'm unwanted. I tried to be honest about what I feel but perhaps. . . Sigh! . . being honest is not everything in life, I suppose.

One thing's for sure, I know I won't change. I am always going to be honest about my feelings. I can't lie of what I've felt. 

If he is ignoring me because of me being honest to him then so be it. It is sad but if it is true, I just have to face it. Perhaps he is not ready, perhaps he had a change of heart but if it's true that he has been ignoring me then I thank him for sharing his feelings with me that night.

If you are waiting for the right time, it doesn't mean that you have to let go of all your real friends. It doesn't mean that you have to unfriend and suddenly ignore that friend who has a crush on you. It is possible to just be friends. If you push away a friendship just like that, then you're just being cruel.

I'm not blaming anyone on this and I blame myself for being so open sometimes or most of the time. I just hope everyone achieve the utmost happiness no matter what they do for life.

I have one thing that I would like to say to that person, 

"I wish you all the best." 

Driving

When my level of stress risen to its peak, sometimes or most of the time; driving makes me sane again.

HEHEH!

When I drive I pay attention to it and it gaps me from thinking of my so called lame problems. There is one thing about driving a car that really soothes my soul for awhile, it is called tail-gating and cutting a car which is slightly slower then mine.

I like to call it 'cilok' as well. I tend to cut the car in front of me, swayed my car to the front right or front left from the rear of the car which throttled like a tortoise. It is dangerous but I find it amusing. Sick isn't it? Tsk! Tsk! Tsk! Yup! BUT... it helps me to take a break from stress dues. I noticed that I drive better when I'm angry or when I am emotionally imbalanced. HAHA! Totally not a good thing I must say.


It gets even better when the music playing on the radio beats up and my driving skills surpass and mirrors an F1 driver. ;P

P/S: I confessed to M on 4th June 2013. HEHEH! I think it went well. He responded quite well. <3 p="">

Nice post by AnwarHadi.

Fictional subject. Simple fun reading written by him. Read on! IniAnwarHadi.

The road not taken.

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. 

Robert Frost

*****

I never thought that I would be in the same situation as the one in the poem. I took the road less traveled by.

I have a confession to make.

I am starting to like this guy.



:)


But... I'm not sure if this feeling is here to stay or just curiosity. However, I want to take that chance.


If he wants it too.



:)

How to make him fall in LOVE.

#15 You First!

This tip is perhaps the most important one. It may be cliche, but as Carrie Bradshaw once famously said, you cannot love another person and expect to be loved in return unless you love yourself first! Wise words.

#14 Don't Overdo It

While you may think that showering your guy with affection is the way to his heart, think again! Studies have shown that guys actually find it a turn off when girls give more than what he does because it turns them into more of a mother figure, rather than a friend or girlfriend.

#13 And Action!

Sometimes it's nice to spice things up a bit, so why not choose a date more suited to him? Guys love action-packed activities, so next time you spend time together, let him make the suggestions!

#12 Absence

You know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder! While spending lots of time together is a sure way to his heart, so is reminding him of how much he loves spending time with you! So every now and then, don't forget to take some time out to see your girlfriends or family.

#11 Take it Slow

When it comes to the physical side of your relationship, the best advice is to take it slow and allow it to develop gradually over time. This allows the two of you to build trust, one of the most important aspects of love.

#10 Keep it Intriguing

A woman's instinct is to share a lot all at once, so make sure you keep some intrigue! Men love a bit of mystery after all.

#9 Two-Way Street

The reality is, you can't expect him to love you if you don't love him in return. Love is a two-way street, so make sure your desires are true, and that you don't simply crave the affection and attention of another.

#8 A Man's Heart

The way to a man's heart is through his stomach, as they say. But the truth is, everyone likes to be fed! Serve him up a treat and watch him (hopefully) return the favor. Love is about all the senses after all!

#7 Friendship = Key

While love and flirting are important, so is friendship! Love is about being best friends with one another too.

#6 The Joker

Men know that women love a man who makes them laugh! If every time you see a guy and he makes you laugh, you leave him feeling good about himself. In turn, he begins to associate this feel-good rush with you, therefore leading to lots of love potential!

#5 Confidant Woman

Relying on your man doesn't mean being a crumbling mess without him! Men are strongly attracted to confident women who know what they want and aren't afraid to get it! So give him reasons to admire you.

#4 Reliance is Key

Showing him that you rely on him (not TOO much) and allowing him to also rely on you will do wonders for your relationship. This way you allow the bond to deepen, opening yourselves up for love.

#3 Time = Love

Spend time together! If there's a mutual attraction to begin with, then the more time you both spend together will allow the two of you to become closer. He'll learn to love one-on-one time with you.

#2 Choose Similarities

Instead of dwelling on your differences, focus on your similarities instead! While sometimes you can benefit from trying new things to impress your potential lover, just make sure you don't fake interest! He'll be able to tell straight away.

#1 Eye Spy

A US study has shown that lovers spend 75% of their time together staring one another in the eye. Ensuring that you give your crush eye-contact encourages him to look you in the eyes too, therefore encouraging his brain to think about love.

:)